As I’ve come to rest as the witness of my thoughts and disidentify from my mental activity, I’ve come to observe that most people take their thoughts way too seriously.
Many of my clients come to me with problems that exist in one place: their thinking. That’s it. These problems exist nowhere around them. They exist in their perception of life—the meaning they make of objective happenings and the stories they tell themselves.
And then they want help with a problem that they are literally creating.
This is why my work is not around solving problems, but dissolving them. Because most problems don’t need to be solved; they just need to stop being created.
For example, a few of my clients right now have a mental program running that tells them they’re not enough. So they’ve been trying to solve that problem. But the problem is simply a story and the story is a lie based on past conditioning and a complete lack of current evidence.
An amateur would help them become enough. I help them realize they already are.
The point here is that people seek out support, changes, and substances to help them cope with thoughts.
But the problem is not thoughts alone, it’s our relationship with thoughts. It’s the way people treat their thoughts as truth, even when they have zero evidence to support them. It’s the way people identify with thoughts as who they are, even when they haven’t chosen them, reducing the vast expanse of their consciousness to chemical and electrical brain activity.
And many of these thoughts are just echoes of old experiences, conditioned patterns from childhood, society, and past wounds. Yet, people let these unexamined scripts dictate their self-worth, their choices, and their experience of life.
Consider this: we don’t think—we are aware of thinking.
Thoughts are happening, just like your heartbeat is happening.
Our brain activity is mostly programming, running loops we picked up along the way. Some of those loops are useful (“look both ways before crossing the street”), but many are just noise and others are flat out destructive—self-doubt, fear, insecurity, a running commentary of judgment and comparison.
And yet, so many people listen to these thoughts as if they are facts.
Meanwhile, there is another part of you that is far more intelligent.
Your heart.
Research from the HeartMath Institute, where I’ve done a good deal of training, shows that the heart sends more signals to the brain than the brain sends to the heart. The heart’s intelligence should be cultivated and respected as a governing force in our lives.
Your heart Knows. Your mind determines.
But the mental noise is usually so loud that it often drowns out these wiser messages.
The mind is meant to serve you, not rule you. It is supposed to be the navigator, not the captain. I believe that the next phase of humanity’s evolution will help us step away from unchecked mental dominance and into greater expressions of universal intelligence.
That is to say, greater expressions of our heart.
The mind can analyze, calculate, and problem-solve. It knows, but it doesn’t Know.
The heart Knows. The mind figures out.
And yet, most people live in the reverse—letting their mind dictate everything while silencing and overriding the deeper Knowing within them.
This is self-betrayal. I lived this way for years, and now I can observe it clearly in others. I’ve felt the pain it causes, and now I guide others through that pain into greater alignment.
The mind is useful, however. This is not about disregarding all our thoughts. It’s about developing a favorable relationship with them.
The thing about the mind is that it can be incredibly helpful when given a direction.
The mind will go to work on whatever you direct it toward. So instead of letting it obsess over worst-case scenarios, self-judgment, and fear, give it something constructive to focus on.
Train it, recondition it, and use it as an instrument for making your life a masterpiece.
Develop discernment with your thoughts. Consider which ones are useful and apply them. See which ones aren’t and discard them.
Most thoughts, I just choose to let pass right by—like clouds in the sky. I don’t even entertain them. Even though I’ve conditioned my mind to produce mostly positive and constructive thoughts, I still have plenty of nonsense pass through, and I just let it go. Not everything deserves my attention. Not every thought is worth believing.
But the heart? That’s never just noise. That deserves to be listened to.
So make decisions from your heart. Then let the mind do what it does best—figure out how to make them happen.
Want to create something? Your heart says yes. Your mind plots the steps.
Want to leave a situation that drains you? Your heart urges you toward something greater. Your mind makes the exit plan.
Want to change your life? Your heart dreams it. Your mind strategizes it.
Let your heart lead. Let your mind facilitate.
That’s the way out of mental tyranny and into true well-being.
That’s how you let the mind serve the heart.
That’s how your life becomes an expression of your highest truth.
Where is your heart leading you?
I want to know.
Message me.
Such a great reminder not to entertain every thought! So, so important to be the watcher and lead with the heart! 🫶