What if one question could change everything?

Spoiler: It can

This past weekend in Florida, I was reminded of just how powerful questions can be.

I experience the power of questions every single time I coach clients. But this was different. This was unexpected.

This was not a coaching session.

I was in town for a special occasion, and a few of us gathered by the pool.

Unexpectedly, someone pulled out their phone and said, “I have some questions to ask everyone…”

One by one we went through them:

What makes you tick? (like a clock, in a good way)

What are you afraid for others to know about you?

What's the best compliment you've ever received?

What's the best life advice you've ever gotten?

What followed was an enriching, soul-nourishing conversation that deepened our connection. We shared laughter, moments of vulnerability, and newfound understandings of each other. It was beautiful.

And none of it would have happened without those questions being asked.

This simple moment illustrated the tremendous power of questions.

Questions are like mind control in a way.

Let me ask you something right now.

What went well for you so far today?

Go ahead and answer. I’ll wait.

(me, waiting)

Before you read that, your mind was somewhere else, probably just skimming this text. But the moment the question hit, your brain switched tracks, searching for an answer, focusing on positives you weren’t consciously aware of.

Kind of amazing, right?

This is why questions are such an extraordinary coaching skill.

As a coach, I don’t answer my clients’ questions—I help them ask better ones and answer them for themselves.

Through my questions, I help clients expand their thinking, discover new possibilities, and step into the vast, untapped potential of their lives.

And I practice what I preach.

For example, I just launched a group coaching program. We span the globe; I have clients from New York, Brazil, New Zealand, and Australia in there.

Initially, the plan was to meet twice a week, but coordinating times that worked for everyone’s availability across these time zones was a challenge. At first, it felt like a roadblock.

So I asked myself one of my favorite coaching questions: “What’s the opportunity here?”

I've eliminated complaining from my mindset—I do not entertain victimhood or limiting beliefs. Complaints are a form of spiritual weakness.

Instead, I treat every challenge as a chance to uncover hidden opportunities. So, when faced with this scheduling dilemma, I didn’t ask, “Why me?” or resort to unhelpful mental chatter like, “Just my luck.”

I asked, “What’s the opportunity here?”

And because I asked, I found the answer.

The opportunity revealed itself as a solution that elevated the program: a single, longer group session each week combined with personalized one-on-one laser coaching sessions throughout the week.

This shift didn’t just solve the time zone problem—it made the entire experience richer for everyone. One client said, “I was wanting one-on-one time with you too. I feel like I manifested this.”

You did. We did.

The takeaway?

Ask yourself better questions, and watch your life transform.

Hidden in every challenge is a seed of possibility waiting to be found.

It’s all about the questions you ask and where they guide your mind.

So, where do you want to guide your mind?

What will you ask yourself next?